When it comes to blood relatives, we tend to forget that they are humans by nature, as any other being. We are hurt when someone points out their misdeeds, finds fault with them and cannot even imagine sitting through anyone speaking ill of them; though logic clearly understands the real side. We argue for them and grab every chance to clarify on their behalf......My mother will never do that....my son is the best......you did not understand my sister's view........My brother is the only person you can trust in this world......I think, this is the way we invest in and nurture our relationships. This short-sightedness continues only until we get to face the truth and we are on the receiving end of their human side..... believe me, it hits hard......the 'all is well' honeymoon ends too.... However, we can't speak out because we have already vouched for their correctness nor can we expose our own people. At the same time, neither can we hold it back until we vent it out, because we are not the heavenly beings either.... My mantra is to stay calm and let the time heal the wound...crying it out would help. The world is spherical, everything will fall in its own place and it's just a matter of time. We are not waiting to see our loved ones in trouble, but just watch them gulp down their own lump. No, we are not being sadistic. It is just that we let them know that their mistake. Reaching a balance at this juncture is difficult, as they are our world and by any means, are the only assets showered on us by the God. They are the only people we can go back to and seek support in times of need. So, yes!! relationships are complicated, convoluted and confusing; but accept it, they are enriching in more than one way!!
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